09 October, 2010

Leave the Drama at the Theater

Due to the apparent trouble I've caused by posting this, the original content is being deleted. I had no idea that my own thoughts and feelings would cause such a stir.


For those of you who have read for a long time and know me, you know that it was not my intention to cause a stir but to prod us all to be a little more considerate of each others' situations. I honestly didn't think that I complained about my husband's internet connect so much, but it has been brought to my attention that I do. 


I refuse to keep defending myself because I shouldn't have to. 


This is my blog. It contains my thoughts and feelings. If you don't want to read about my issues and complaints during this deployment or about other things in my life, you're not required to follow me. I won't take it personally.

13 comments:

stacie-marie said...

We need to talk this out cus this is getting ridiculous.. I am sorry for what my friends wrote I dont agree with them but like you they have they right to their opinions.. it is not a one upper situation like you keep making it about to be, it was honestly to make you feel better and obviously it didnt work and for that im sorry and the example I used wasn't even mine and I never said it was it was my frg leaders I have never personally gone 3-4 weeks w/o notification the longest I have gone is 12 days the reason why I said anything in my fb at all us cause you deleted the post I even replied to then blogged about it then made another fb status about it (im not gonna comment on every bad internet status you have after that when once again my comment in the 1st place was to make you feel better which we all know didnt work and I already apoligized for it in the 1st blog)and now another blog about it a lil excessive so yeah when I know those things are jabs at me whether it be your fb,blog, or twitter I will finally say something especially after I already apologized cus obviously my intent of making you feel better was an epic fail everything I ever said to you up until my post and trust me that post was not directed only towards you has been out of love and kindness and all I have rcved back is cattiness yeah I have a point too where Im gonna lose my cool as well.. I am human.. and yeah Im leaving this on here so maybe people that read your post and have words to say about it or me will get the whole story and not this whole one upper nonsense because that is not what it was about at all before they start tearing me down again.. that and you will probably blog about it anyways :) I meant that as a joke.. I truly am sorry that my original comment didnt give you comfort like was my intention and im sorry my friends opinions hurt your feelings but you are not 100% innocent in this drama session in going on either but Im ending it and on that note I am done with this and hope we can move past this with no hard feelings and no ill intent and just an army wife loving another army wife
Stacie

Sespi said...

That's hard. I agree with you that everyone should support each other, in spite of our different situations. As a Navy spouse, I only have to deal with short deployments (but WAY too many of them... sorry, just found out about another one yesterday and not happy a bout it!) and I sometimes cringe after I complain and realize that someone whose husband is gone for a year is reading my status. But I shouldn't. Because those people whose husband is gone for a year blog/tweet/FB when they skype with or get calls from their husbands, and I'm happy for them even though I can't skype with or call my husband when he's gone. Regardless of what anyone else is going through, deployment sucks. You aren't experiencing the other person's deployment and as long as you're being a good friend to the other person, there's no reason that you should have to be feel bad about having feelings about your own deployment. The one upping is ridiculous... I've only ever had one person try that with me (she told me my husband's deployment didn't count) and I just decided I wasn't going to socialize with her anymore. I choose to share my feelings with and get support from people who are actually friends and care about what I'm saying.

Chelsea Pearl said...

I guess all I have to write is, be careful what you say to another woman who's husband is deployed. Women are emotional creatures. Words of support should sound like words of support.
Especially online/texting anything where you can't see the other person and hear their tone of voice. Words that are typed or written down can be taken in such a different ways than they were intended. So before you write a comment re-read it, think it over. Try to type your TRUE feelings only. Than situations like these can be avoided.
With that being said...I'm sorry your hubs internet goes out all the time. My hubs is only in A school and I get annoyed when our phone conversations get lost because his room has crappy reception. I can only imagine how frustrating it would be.

JG said...

Wow. How stupid. Some people just don't know how to see past their own nose.

And no, it's NOT your fault when someone comes to your space - wherever it is - and puts their negativity onto you. You know how I feel about this, but of course you have the right to express yourself however and whenever and wherever you want.

Renee said...

I don't have a dog in this race..but I can agree with you that the internet connections sucks sometimes! I also ALWAYS recognize that I am so blessed to have that 2-3 minute blurb when there are others that don't get 1 minute.

As for your drama...most of us (blog friends) are in one place or another with deployment.. one MOS or location is not better than another. Shame on any military spouse who thinks otherwise!

Chin up Girl!!

armywife_b2010 said...

I totally agree with you. You have every right to post, facebook and tweet what ever the hell you want to on your own page. If people dont like it then on facebook they can hide or delete you on blogger and twitter they can either ignor it or stop following you. THEY DO NOT HAVE TO SHOW NEGATIVITY. You are right we all need as much "SUPPORT" as we can get. No ones MOS is more important then another. The military needs them all equally in order to be able to function right. Some husbands dont get to talk to their wives as much as others, because their job may require more concentration...

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

All I can say is Amen!

Sarah Ruth said...

I totally and 100% agree with you. We each have the right to have our own opinions. People who cause drama are either jealous or just plain don't get it!

Cheer up buttercup! You've been TAGGED!

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Crazy Shenanigans said...

I always find it ironic, mean and rude that people will go out of their way to leave a negative comment but can't take the easy time to say something nice.

Lacey said...

Omg, I am so sorry that happened to you. I agree with you 100% this isnt a contest and noone has any right to tell you what you can and cannot feel, thats degrading and actually very immature. I am going through a deployment as well and i get so so so aggravated when the internet goes out..its sucks so bad.If someone were to say that to me it would hurt my heart, truly it would.
Everyone is different and everyone reacts differently to different things...but it is so rude to be negative on someones blog when they are obviously reaching out and sharing their feelings.
I really hope that things get better for you, because from what im told army wives start alot of drama...and this seems like someone who wants to start something. YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL AND EXPRESS HOW YOU FEEL! that is your right as a human being and i am so proud of you for standing up for yourself ! Good Job!

11BWifey said...

I am so mad that you have to go through this! MilSpouses are supposed to be a SUPPORT system for each other, not a 'make you feel like your frustrations are inferior' system. I completely agree with you about the internet stuff. Every time Skype cuts out it is so completely frustrating I just want to cry, because you want to have this happy conversation with your soldier, but Skype causes everyone to be aggrevated! And maybe this doesn't "make me a real Army wife" because a couple days ago I was complaining about not getting to hear from my husband in 3 whole weeks, and now that we can Skype I am complaining about that, but you know what, I just think that makes me human. Keep your head up girl, and you just keep voices YOUR opinions and concerns. :)

Chelle said...

To me, missing someone is missing someone. You can not tell one person how much they miss their loved one based on your own feelings. I can't stand hearing that. It's just like hearing milspouses complain that civilian wives don't miss their loved ones as much as we miss our Soldiers. It's just like love, you can't put a value or weight on the feeling. If it's there, it's there.

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